Managing Your Anger as a Caregiver
Being a family caregiver often consists of a mixed bag of emotions. One day you may be feeling grateful for the opportunity to care for your elderly loved one, but other days may be filled with regret and anger. However, by not learning to manage your anger, you will not be able to give your elderly loved one the care they need.
Instead of losing control of your emotions next time you are faced with a frustrating situation, try these tips to stay calm and collected.
- Learn breathing techniques. When your anger is getting the better of you, it is time to take a moment to breathe. Slow, deep breaths can help you calm down and relax before making a decision that you will later regret.
- Understand how they feel. Successful caregivers are able to show empathy towards the elder. They can put themselves into their loved one’s shoes in order to get a better understanding of why they feel the way they do. If you plan on being a long-term caregiver, this is a characteristic that you will need to develop if you have not already.
- Get help. The best thing you can do when you feel as though you can’t control your anger is to step away from the position until you are ready to help again. Let a professional elder care provider provide quality care while you get much-needed break.
- Express your concerns constructively. Are there any concerns you have over your loved one’s well-being that is causing these negative feelings? Your feelings are understandable, but it is important you learn how to share your opinions in a positive way. Next time you feel like exploding, take a moment to think of how to best handle the situation before making a poor decision.
- Do not be afraid to be sad. Some people use their anger as a way to hide any sadness they are feeling. If you are feeling upset, acknowledge those feelings and do not be afraid to share it with others. In fact, sharing these feelings with other family members may actually strengthen the bond you have with them since you will be able to commiserate together.
There are a wide range of emotions you may have on a daily basis, one being anger. Knowing how to handle these feelings is important in order to provide the best care for your elderly parent. These techniques should help you to better channel your feelings before you hurt someone you love.