Caregiving is a wonderful experience, but it can sometimes leave you feeling pessimistic as a caregiver. One way around that is to work on ways to switch your mindset around and to embrace optimism instead.
Think about Situations in Which You’re Empowered
Caregiving can really give your emotions a beating. There’s red tape from insurance companies and other entities, there are the demands from your loved one, and there may be family issues, as well. It’s a lot to manage. Take a few moments and think about situations where you’ve been in control and you were empowered. List those as your accomplishments in a journal or simply remember them as often as you can. Holding onto that feeling of empowerment can help you to remember that even when situations beat you down, that’s not who you are all the time.
Magnify the Positives, Even When They’re Small
When you’re overwhelmed, even the smallest positives are super important. Start magnifying those positives as much as you can. One way to do this is to start keeping a gratitude journal where you record everything you’re grateful for. You might also start keeping a list of positives from your day and then meditate on that list afterward.
Step Outside of Yourself
Feeling isolated and alone is an excellent way to keep yourself noticing the negative. Start reaching out and connecting with other people. You might do this by keeping in touch with family and friends or you might find it helpful to join a support group. Even online support groups can help you to reach out to others. Some caregivers find that volunteering in their community helps them to feel more positive about their own lives.
Take Time Away
Have you ever noticed that when you step away from a situation for a little while, you stop seeing the negatives and you remember the positives more easily? In fact, you might even start to miss those positives. Hire elder care providers or talk to other family members about pitching in and make sure that you take time away as often as you’re able.
Look for other ways to embrace the positive aspects of your life with your elderly loved one and embrace them.